A reason or two, why I can’t identify with the female gender group

A reason or two, why I can’t identify with the female gender group I have found myself to struggle in relationships with other females because of my lack of identification to the group. Most women complain that I do things that are wrong, such as not care if my partner is out with other girls at the bar flirting, (just an example). I say why not? What is the harm? They respond with catty beliefs that my partner will sleep with the other girls, or that it is disrespectful and unloving for him to spend time with other females. But my retort always ends up being: He’s not going to sleep with another girl, and so what if he did? He would use protection, and he would choose a classy girl who has high enough standards not to sleep around with strange, or married men; which just so happens to bring me back to the fact that he won’t be sleeping around. If he did, why is that supposed to affect me? It’s sex. Not love. I am still the one that is special in his heart. I am the one that is in a relationship with him, and sex with some other girl is not going to change that. In addition how is flirting with other girls at all disrespectful to me? It has nothing to do with me. It has everything to do with natural instinct. I would be delusional if I believed he is supposed to here on out only find me attractive and only desire me ever again. I would be delusional to think that not allowing him to be what he naturally is, is going to make our relationship stronger. No smothering him and denying him from who he is, is what pushes him away. When women attribute actions of men flirting or having intercourse with other women as a direct effect of disrespect to one’s partner, or a lack of love then we are using misattribution, because these actions have nothing to do with a lack of respect or love. I am going off on a bunny trail rant. Basically I have tried explaining my reasons for why I am different than other women, and explain why their issues are not the same as mine and how to better the lives or relationships between women, I come up short because it is an unaccepted belief. It is unaccepted by other women. I find it disappointing and exhausting to have to listen to the fact that men have to hide things from their wives and visa versa because they cannot be their true selves in fear that they each are some how committing sins. I do not have problems with my partner. He has the option to sleep around. Does he take it? No. How can I trust this? Because I trust and know him well. He has proven to be trust worthy, and I make a point not to take his actions too personal when their more baser instincts are the clear cause of something he does. It’s like telling a straight man it is wrong to be straight, or to tell a kid not to get excited. Its ludicrous, because it is telling a person they cannot do what comes naturally to them. It is some how a sin to be normal. Also for those of you who say “if you don’t keep sex just in the relationship then what do you have that is special?” if all you have in your relationship that is “Special” is sex, then you do not have a relationship. You have a big problem.